Well, I don’t know how to start, but I’ll tell ya straight, I can’t stand my mother-in-law. Ever since the first time I met her, I knew she was trouble. She just has this way of making everything feel wrong, like no matter what I do, it’s never good enough for her. And the worst part? She talks behind my back to my husband, and even worse, to my kids! You can bet I’ve heard all about it, from my husband and even from the neighbors, about how she says I do this and that wrong. It gets on my nerves, it really does.
Now let me tell you, if you’re stuck with a mother-in-law like mine, here’s what I’ve learned to do:
- Don’t let her get to ya. The first thing you gotta do is don’t let her suck you into her mess. If she’s stirring up trouble, don’t go following her lead. Don’t give her the satisfaction of seeing you upset. It’s hard, but trust me, it’s the best way to keep your peace.
- Don’t take it personal. If she’s always making you feel bad, or finding fault with everything you do, well, that’s on her, not you. It’s like she has this need to control everything, and when she can’t, she blames it on you. But you’ve gotta realize, it ain’t your fault!
- Set boundaries. You’ve got to set some rules and boundaries with her. Tell her where she can and can’t go in your life, and stick to it. If you let her walk all over you, she will. So stand firm and don’t let her do that.
- Get your partner on your side. This is important. You can’t be doing it all by yourself. Talk to your husband, make him understand your side, and make him see how his mother is treating you. If he doesn’t back you up, that’s a big problem. But if he does, it’ll make it a lot easier to deal with.
Now, I’ll be honest, I didn’t always do this. At first, I tried to be nice, tried to get along with her, but it just didn’t work. She’s like one of those people who can never be pleased, no matter how hard you try. Every time I did something, she had something to say about it. And my goodness, it was never anything good. It was always criticism, always something wrong. I started to think, “Is she just miserable, or is this how she really is?” Well, turns out, she’s just like that, always finding fault in others, but never looking at herself.
And let me tell you, once I had kids, it got worse. The tolerance I had left for her just disappeared. I couldn’t take it anymore. She’d try to tell me how to raise my kids, telling me everything from how I should feed them to how I should discipline them. I wanted to scream at her, “These are MY kids, not yours!” But I didn’t. Instead, I just kept my distance as much as I could.
If you find yourself in this situation, my advice is simple: Keep your distance. Don’t let her manipulate you. If you notice she’s trying to turn the family against you, don’t let it happen. Stand your ground, and remember that your peace is worth more than her drama. Some days, it feels like she’s doing everything she can to ruin my day, but you know what? I just don’t let her anymore.
At this point, I’ve grown to hate the way she treats me. I’ve never hated anyone in my life, but she’s really pushing it. The way she barges in and expects to be treated like royalty, the way she acts like she knows everything about raising kids—well, it’s just too much. She’s overbearing, she’s rude, and she can be downright nasty sometimes. I’ve tried to be civil, but some days, it’s just too hard.
So, if you’re dealing with a MIL like mine, here’s what you gotta do:
- Don’t engage in her drama. She’s gonna try to stir things up, but don’t take the bait. If she starts saying things behind your back, let it go. It’s not worth your time.
- Stay strong in your marriage. Your relationship with your husband is the most important thing. Don’t let her come between you two. Make sure you’re on the same page, and make him understand that you’re not the problem—she is.
- Keep your peace. Life’s too short to be caught up in someone else’s negativity. If she’s gonna be negative, let her do it on her own. You just focus on your own happiness and well-being.
In the end, it’s about taking control of your own life. If your MIL’s causing problems, don’t let her win. Stand your ground, and don’t let her bring you down. It might take some time to get used to, but trust me, you’ll get there. You’re the one who deserves to be happy, not her.
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